BDSM: Why Do We Like the Idea of Spanking and Being Spanked?

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The act of spanking can be so much more than what you’re used to. Sure, occasional spanks are fun and feel good, but what about the whole erotic spanking experience? If you’ve never heard of this before, we’re going to tell you all about it. All we have to say is that you should definitely try it yourself.

Erotic Spanking

We’re going to share something that will blow your mind. Spanking doesn’t only include your partner spanking you while you’re cooking dinner. Oh no. Erotic spanking is actually so much more than that. It can also include different spanking aids. But before we get into all of that, let’s talk about what erotic spanking actually is.

People consider erotic spanking to be a form of impact play, which is a category within BDSM. Impact play can sound like something that’s completely out of your comfort zone. However, this type of spanking won’t tear flesh from bone.

Why do people do it? It’s usually a great way to start a BDSM session, so it can be a form of foreplay. Your partner can spank any part of your body. That’s right — your thighs, stomach, arms, all of the fleshy parts of your body. That’s why this kind of play requires a bit of experience and a lot of communication.

This can be a vital introduction to domination plays. So, if you’re willing to try something new, you can always ask your partner if they’d like to spank you. We’re sure they won’t say no because everyone loves spanking.

Erotic Spanking Essentials

When you discover spanking for pleasure, it’s only natural that you’ll start with your hand. It’s just something we’re all used to by now. You know, when your partner spanks your butt casually. But when you venture into the world of erotic spanking, you’ll realize that there are other tools you can use.

We always recommend taking your time to get to know a fetish or a play before you jump the gun. That means you shouldn’t think you can do what experts do. It’s just spanking, so how difficult could it be? You’re about to find out.

Once using your hand starts getting a bit boring, you can move onto other spanking tools. The number of different tools available can be overwhelming. However, let’s take it one at a time. There are paddles, floggers, whips, canes, etc.

When you’re just a beginner, we recommend gravitating towards paddles and floggers. They’re very easy to maneuver and leave little room for mistakes. Plus, you can use them in a lot of ways. Once you master those two, you can move on to whips and canes.

Whips and canes can be a bit tricky to get ahold of. In our opinion, the whip is probably the most difficult to master. So, we recommend staying away from it until you’re completely sure that you know what you’re doing.

Either way, everything that happens is in communication with your partner. So, they can also be the ones to decide which tools they want you to use.

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Tips for a Better Spanking Experience

Sexual spanking being as complex as it is, there are a lot of different things you can do. It’s not just about spanking itself. It’s about finding the perfect balance between pleasure and pain. Of course, you need to find out exactly what your partner likes and think about it every single time.

Besides using a variety of different tools for your spanking session, there are other things you can (and should) experiment with. The first thing we want to mention is intensity. As with all impact play, there will be some pain involved. Some like it more, some less. So, to find out exactly what you and your partner like, you should experiment with intensity.

We don’t recommend pushing yourself to absolute limits because that could possibly result in an injury. Instead, focus simply on what feels good. Another thing you can experiment with is different techniques. If you’re starting with your hand, try positioning your palm differently before the spank itself. Different areas of the palm will provide different kinds of sensations. When it comes to using tools, you can also try using them in different ways.

Although we could teach you about different maneuvers, we encourage you to find them out yourself. No two people are the same, which means everyone will enjoy something else.

You can further experiment with different moods, positions, even with or without clothing on. There are so many options!

Safety Precautions During Erotic Spanking

When it comes to all things BDSM, safety and consent always come first. That means you’ll have to do a lot of communicating and exploring before moving on to the actual spanking. The first thing you need to do is find out how comfortable your partner is with the whole idea of erotic spanking. Once you’re on the same page, it’s time to move on to the next step.

Setting clear boundaries on how intense the play itself can be is one of the most important things. That is how you can ensure that no harm can come to anyone involved. Talk about how long the play will last before (and if) you move on to sex. Also, don’t forget to talk about which tools are allowed.

Last but definitely not least, come up with a safe word. In the world of BDSM, safewords are mandatory, no matter how vanilla the play might seem. Things can get out of hand pretty quickly, and you need to have a way of putting an end to them immediately. A safeword can be anything you wouldn’t use in that situation, or you can even agree on a particular sound or a gesture.

Conclusion

Erotic spanking is something everyone should include in their foreplay. It can be as innocent or as erotic as you want it to be. Everyone loves a good spank, so next time your partner asks for it, make sure you give them the whole experience.